Fast: generous heart with others
(I see that people who are generous with others have it come back to them. And people who aren't, sort of wither on their lone island)
Take yourself out of the equation.
Reverence. Respect. Unity.
You can’t look forward and connect the dots, you can only see them connect as you look back. -Uchtdorf
Waldrop family wasn’t perfect, but they’re in my list of top 5 most influential people in my life. They introduced the gospel to our family. They were our grandparents and cousins. They were a home to us. A home where we were safe, taught, and always wanted and welcomed. I’m grateful that my childhood was blessed with the Waldrop influence.
HF is able to put those “finishing touches” on our children. -Hemstreet
You can’t even make this stuff up, it’s so awesome. Jenna
“The Lord doesn’t put us through [a] test just to give us a grade; he does it because the process will change us.” Eyring
You will bless the lives of the children forever by helping them come to know heavenly father and Jesus Christ. -come follow me (CFM)
Intentional:
Purposeful
Perspective
Careful
Deliberate
Mindful
Focus
Diligent
Change
Commitment
Consequences of casualness.
Fackrell
We have 60,000-65,000 thoughts every day.
What thoughts are we feeding?
Emotional & logical Thought filters
Circumstances (neutral)
Thoughts (input)
Feelings/ emotions
Action
Result
Every single difficulty can make us better.
You have to control what you think about your marriage.
Purposely feed brain 100s of good thoughts every day about husband, children, circumstances, and life. Morning thought pattern & before I get out of bed; family & individually:
Isn’t this a wonderful life!
I have the greatest husband ever
I’m so lucky to be their mom
“You’re right, it is greener. But it’s AstroTurf. It doesn’t require watering.” Tamara
The only power satan can have over us is through our thoughts.
Name it to tame it. Anger is a costume for another emotion. (Fear, embarrassed, tired)
Do the work for prevention.
You want to create really THICK boundaries.
The only exception is when one spouse is dragging the other one away from covenants because the eternal path matters more than the martial path.
Intimacy overachiever: 3-5 a week; it is a healer in marriage; connections; problem solver unique to marriage. It’s just never going to be an issue in our marriage. Engage if possible, if not now, within 24 hours.
Do the work.
Business side to a marriage: DUDS
daily undeniable duties and services
Choose wisely which parent you’re going to ask, because yes or no is the final answer.
Mike loves me to pieces.
- Bless boys with experiences that will help them draw closer to Thee.
Education is all a matter of building bridges. Ellison
No hay mal que no venga por bien (silver lining)
6 word memoirs:
Prayed for my current life now.
Grateful for the life I live.
Running Camp:
Have you ever heard of that medicine called triactin?
Try actin’ like a man
Arts Express is a favorite summer tradition! I love meeting new people, learning great skills, eating good food, and leaving with a brain full of creative ideas!”
You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough. Hampton
Waiting. Necessary evil or necessary good!
How is waiting different than biding our time.
- The longer I live in our house, the more I realize what a tender mercy it is. Take the ticket behind us for example. It’s so much like the ravine that I grew up in.
Intentions:
- Help me to speak with the language of the spirit.
- Peace. Let’s be peaceful today. Breathe. Slow down. Open our eyes to the beautiful people around us.
Come from a place of abundance and grace in all of our relationships. -The transformative power of covenants, BYU
- Help me to take care of this wonderful, beautiful, glorious body thou hast blessed me with.
- Blessed me with an increased capacity to love and with the ability to love other children as my own.
Come Follow Me:
Family centered, church supported integrated curriculum has the potential to unleash the power of families... Nelson
Remodel home into a sanctuary of spiritual learning. Eyring
The home is both classroom and lab. An echo of heaven. Holland
(2 hour church) When has the Lord ever asked less of us? Bishop Brown
6 hats technique:
White: list out the facts. Fill in information.
Red: gut feelings. Fears, likes, dislikes.
Yellow: everything that’s working well. Positive. Benefits to be gained. Optimistic.
Black: what are the challenges. What’s difficult or not working. Pessimistic.
Green: creative, brainstorming, problem-solving; sharing best practices. Alternatives.
Blue: control and progression
-Be creative and flexible. Time, Place, length, duration, topic, with other families, resources, media, location (car, outdoors, bedroom, etc).
-It’s ok if it’s not an hour. Continuous conversations and touch points when driving, playing, meals, random. Create “threads” throughout the week.
-Expand the family to extended family, friends, neighbors. Texting.
-Trivia wars/ Kahoot!
-Post it! Notes
-Breakout sessions by age; 1:1
-Visual, art, writing, dramatization, 7 intelligences
-Give boys opportunities to prepare, teach, and lead discussions.
-Prepare. Take responsibility to properly read & prepare.
-Give older children teaching assignments so the can get more out of it despite youngers.
Fackrell:
“I’m a show up person.”
60,000 thoughts a day; 80% negative and only 10% are new or fresh.
“We’re already doing the best we can, pathetic as it is.” Mary Ashworth
What are the victim stories we and our children tell ourselves?
Secrets ruin marriage. Share anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Marital garbage/ anger rocks that stay in your heart: Past wrongs you haven’t gotten over. Clean it out by talking it out or doing brain downloads. Open up to spouse.
“Hook” on to a good marriage that you want to emulate (mentors).
“Verbal loyalty” vs. inverse instagram
Everything that is good in marriages and relationships points back to the Atonement.
Anyone can tell horror stories about their marriage.
Emotional abuse: lack of communication, connections, trust, forgiveness.
Draper BYUI
Finding purpose in serving while waiting. Our ability to wait upon the lord is strengthened over time.
Hinckley
My faith is this: I didn’t in my life, and in this case, in college, know what I was doing. But in following the teachings of our prophet, I was guided to make choices that continue to bless me.
Our kids will be clueless too, but as they follow the prophet, they will be led along to make righteous life choices as well.
