How will you measure your life?

Wake up each morning thinking how lucky you are to be able to spend the day doing what you love. 

Even when you know what your true priorities are, you'll have to fight to uphold them in your mind every day. Emergent and deliberate opportunities and strategies. 

The hot water that softens a carrot will harden an egg

The time when its most important to invest in building strong families and close friendships is when it appears on the surface as if it's not necessary. 

Investing for future happiness 

Invest in relationships before you need their returns. Do the work to maintain friendships. 

Doing what we want vs what they need from the friendship 

The clock of building a good relationship is ticking from the start

What job are you being hired to do (in family and friendships) "high yield" friend 

Find someone you want to make happy 

Help your children learn how to do difficult things; how to handle set backs and high stress. 

We take different "life lessons" classes

Resources (Lucy/ appearance of perfection  vs processes (Lynn/ life's lessons)

As parents, reverse engineer the right life experiences they will need. 

If you're not occasionally failing you're not aiming high enough. Celebrate failure when it's you're child striving for an out of reach goal. 

What lessons do my kids need? 

Unvarnished feedback 

Deliberate plans for family culture and priorities vs emergent opportunities and challenges that occur in life. 

Upfront costs. 

It's hard to see the costs of not investing. Eventually pay the price. Invest in future. 

Extraordinarily clear sense of purpose/ the person I want to become: deliberately conceived, chosen, managed

1) likeness (vision/goals). Who do I truly want to become?

2) commitment/ conversion to likeness. Convert your life to living it. 

3) metric (measurable) How many individuals have I helped 1:1? Seek opportunities to help people tailored to their ind circumstances. 

Focus on resolving other's challenges. 

Clarity of purpose trumps awards, grades, etc. 

Don't cross the line "just this once" bc Life is just one unending stream of extenuating circumstances.