God gave us considerable freedom. He did not approve of [Adam and Eve's] disobedience, He loved hem enough to let them make a decision and live with the results.
The best solution to any problem lies within the skin of the person who rightfully owns the problem.
Children lose respect for adults who cannot set limits and make them stick
Actions not words. Set the example. Think aloud. Let them learn to hear, trust, and listen to the voice in their heads.
Keep your mouths shut and save words for the happy times
The rule with "no" is that we use it as seldom as possible. "never tell a child no when you can tell them yes." Hinckley
Fight only the battles that we know we can win
No problem for the adult, big problem for the kid.
The world doesn't operate on a multiple-warning system
We keep our relationship with the child foremost in our minds. Our love for them reigns supreme. After the situation both individuals feel good about it and their dignity remains in tact.
When responsibility is placed squarely on their shoulders, and natural consequences are allowed to occur, they have nobody to be angry with but themselves
Let's love them enough to allow them to learn the necessary and crucial skills of responsible thinking and living.
Bullies: all of your life you will be around some fairly unpleasant people. How lucky for you to be learning to handle them now! Don't try to change the situation or amount of exposure, instead communicate with and teach the child though the process. If our relationship with our children remains communicative, they will generally choose friends that we like. They can make those decisions without our needing to.
Getting ready: Decide which job belongs to the parents and which to the youngersers. Stay out of the reminder business- say it once clearly and audibly then allow them to make the mistakes needed to learn. Don't rescue! Replace anger with empathy.
Enthuse over the positive and be nonemotional about the negative. Let the attention flourish on the positive and happy child. Ignore the misbehaving one.
Get involved in areas of a child's interest and where they excel
Tantrums: don't change them, just the location
Children don't naturally place limits on themselves; that is a parent's job
The best solution to any problem lies within the skin of the person who rightfully owns the problem.
Children lose respect for adults who cannot set limits and make them stick
Actions not words. Set the example. Think aloud. Let them learn to hear, trust, and listen to the voice in their heads.
Keep your mouths shut and save words for the happy times
The rule with "no" is that we use it as seldom as possible. "never tell a child no when you can tell them yes." Hinckley
Fight only the battles that we know we can win
No problem for the adult, big problem for the kid.
The world doesn't operate on a multiple-warning system
We keep our relationship with the child foremost in our minds. Our love for them reigns supreme. After the situation both individuals feel good about it and their dignity remains in tact.
When responsibility is placed squarely on their shoulders, and natural consequences are allowed to occur, they have nobody to be angry with but themselves
Let's love them enough to allow them to learn the necessary and crucial skills of responsible thinking and living.
Bullies: all of your life you will be around some fairly unpleasant people. How lucky for you to be learning to handle them now! Don't try to change the situation or amount of exposure, instead communicate with and teach the child though the process. If our relationship with our children remains communicative, they will generally choose friends that we like. They can make those decisions without our needing to.
Getting ready: Decide which job belongs to the parents and which to the youngersers. Stay out of the reminder business- say it once clearly and audibly then allow them to make the mistakes needed to learn. Don't rescue! Replace anger with empathy.
Enthuse over the positive and be nonemotional about the negative. Let the attention flourish on the positive and happy child. Ignore the misbehaving one.
Get involved in areas of a child's interest and where they excel
Tantrums: don't change them, just the location
Children don't naturally place limits on themselves; that is a parent's job
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